Time to answer another question.
What is the difference between counselling and coaching?
I’m asked this question a lot and this is how I tend to answer.
Both counselling and coaching involve working with trusted people who create a safe, non judgemental space to help you become your best self.
Counselling starts with where you are now and looks back to events and situations that are still having an impact on your present and works through those things so that you can move forward in a healthy way.
Coaching starts with where you are now and looks forward to where you want to be and creates a space for you to find the next steps on your journey, helps you find ways to overcome any obstacles you encounter or frustrations you are feeling and gives you accountability.
I’d be really interested to hear how others answer this question.
Last week, I asked on social media what people would most like to know about life coaching and about me as a coach (if there's anything you'd like to ask please leave your question in the comments below.) I had lots of questions and I’m going to work my way through them and this seemed like a great place to start.
What is a life coach?
A life coach is someone who comes alongside you to help close the gap between where you are right now and where you want to be in any area of life.
A coach will help you rediscover your dreams, passions, strengths and skills and help identify whatever obstacles or challenges might be holding you back and help you learn how to overcome them.
A good coach will hold a safe, non judgemental, space for you, ask questions and equip you with the tools and techniques to enable you to answer those questions.
A coach will empower and encourage you to believe in yourself and help you develop a toolkit to confidently face challenges and move forward in life.
This is why I love what I do!
This is my latest felt painting (I work as an artist as well as a coach) and it comes with a story.
I woke up a few weeks ago with a clear idea of what to felt. I thought because I had a clear end point it would be straightforward to felt.
It was really complicated and needed lots of research about how gannets dive and their physiology to make sure I got the proportions and shapes just right. .
I learnt that just because I had a clear dream I still had to work really hard to make it happen and I had to stay completely focused on my end point.
I’ve called this piece ‘Focus’ because of my experience and because every aspect of the gannet is aligned and precisely focused so that he can survive the dive and catch dinner!
These blue hospital chairs have become familiar to me. ‘Hospital blue’ is such a unique colour I’ve found.
These chairs have marked various steps in my cancer journey from the shock of the initial diagnosis, to treatment plans, to an early remission, to the news of the aggressive cancer returning, to surgery and stem cell transplant plans, to recovery and where I find myself now; 2 years and 5 months on from my transplant and cancer free.
I saw my consultant yesterday (all good news) and pondered on these chairs and the journey they have marked. My journey had fallen into three parts: fighting, surviving and overcoming and all have been necessary.
In the fight, my head was down and I was fighting with every breath in my body. My focus was the battle I was in and what I needed to do to find victory
I survived and began to recover but in that place of survival I still feared my enemy and lived in its shadow. I had to acknowledge there were injuries from the fight, both physical and emotional, and invest time and care into their healing.
Now I find myself in a place of overcoming. I have processed that fear, I can look my past events in the eye and not be scared of their hold over me. I can sit in this blue chair calmly and at peace and think ahead to how I can help others on their journeys.
As I sat here yesterday I was reminded too of the guides and companions I have had on my journey and I am profoundly grateful for them.
Fight. Survive. Overcome.
Where are you in your journey today?