Yes! Absolutely yes!
Coaching helps you step back from day to day life and find clarity around what your goals are.
Through coaching a person can take time to identify and clarify their goals, assess their current reality and then map out a plan to journey towards their goals.
A coach also helps you set SMART (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, Timely) goals and helps you develop a toolkit to overcome any obstacles that are holding you back from reaching your potential.
It’s exciting stuff!
Do you find it hard to say no? Or if you do say no to someone or something do you feel you have to justify yourself?
Saying no can make us feel guilty or that we’re not meeting expectations or not doing enough.
It’s hard to feel that you might be letting someone down but ‘no’ is an essential part of our vocabulary if we’re going to take responsibility for our self care and set healthy boundaries around what we invest our time and energy into at each stage of our lives.
If you’re feeling anxious and overwhelmed today, it could be helpful to look at everything you’re saying yes to and think about where no might be a more appropriate response.
Have you said yes to too may commitments, behaviours that you’re tolerating but know aren't really acceptable, other people’s opinions that you’re agreeing with or thoughts that you’re allowing to go unchecked.
Try saying no to some of these things to day and see how that makes you feel.
I’m cheering you on.
Who needs a life coach?
My quick answer to who needs a coach is everyone!
I think we can all benefit from a safe, non judgemental space to step back from life and process where we are, where we’d like to be and how we’re going to get there.
More specifically, if you find yourself in a place where you would like direction, focus, accountability, to increase your confidence, to overcome thinking patterns or limiting beliefs that hold you back, to understand yourself better and have clarity on your purpose and values and what drives you, to change your perspective on things, to improve your leadership and business skills or help in achieving your goals then finding a good life coach could be exactly what you need.
Do you know what thoughts, behaviours, attitudes, reactions you are saying yes to and no to in yourself and others?
If you find yourself reacting rather than responding to things then looking at your boundaries can be really helpful.
If we don’t have healthy boundaries or those boundaries are being crossed, we can feel misunderstood or taken advantage of and often powerless in situations which can lead to anger and frustration.
Setting healthy boundaries is a way of determining what we will and won’t accept, they are the lines that help us define our identity and are a crucial part of self care.
Have you stopped to think about your boundaries lately?
Time to answer another question.
What is the difference between counselling and coaching?
I’m asked this question a lot and this is how I tend to answer.
Both counselling and coaching involve working with trusted people who create a safe, non judgemental space to help you become your best self.
Counselling starts with where you are now and looks back to events and situations that are still having an impact on your present and works through those things so that you can move forward in a healthy way.
Coaching starts with where you are now and looks forward to where you want to be and creates a space for you to find the next steps on your journey, helps you find ways to overcome any obstacles you encounter or frustrations you are feeling and gives you accountability.
I’d be really interested to hear how others answer this question.
Last week, I asked on social media what people would most like to know about life coaching and about me as a coach (if there's anything you'd like to ask please leave your question in the comments below.) I had lots of questions and I’m going to work my way through them and this seemed like a great place to start.
What is a life coach?
A life coach is someone who comes alongside you to help close the gap between where you are right now and where you want to be in any area of life.
A coach will help you rediscover your dreams, passions, strengths and skills and help identify whatever obstacles or challenges might be holding you back and help you learn how to overcome them.
A good coach will hold a safe, non judgemental, space for you, ask questions and equip you with the tools and techniques to enable you to answer those questions.
A coach will empower and encourage you to believe in yourself and help you develop a toolkit to confidently face challenges and move forward in life.
This is why I love what I do!
This is my latest felt painting (I work as an artist as well as a coach) and it comes with a story.
I woke up a few weeks ago with a clear idea of what to felt. I thought because I had a clear end point it would be straightforward to felt.
It was really complicated and needed lots of research about how gannets dive and their physiology to make sure I got the proportions and shapes just right. .
I learnt that just because I had a clear dream I still had to work really hard to make it happen and I had to stay completely focused on my end point.
I’ve called this piece ‘Focus’ because of my experience and because every aspect of the gannet is aligned and precisely focused so that he can survive the dive and catch dinner!
These blue hospital chairs have become familiar to me. ‘Hospital blue’ is such a unique colour I’ve found.
These chairs have marked various steps in my cancer journey from the shock of the initial diagnosis, to treatment plans, to an early remission, to the news of the aggressive cancer returning, to surgery and stem cell transplant plans, to recovery and where I find myself now; 2 years and 5 months on from my transplant and cancer free.
I saw my consultant yesterday (all good news) and pondered on these chairs and the journey they have marked. My journey had fallen into three parts: fighting, surviving and overcoming and all have been necessary.
In the fight, my head was down and I was fighting with every breath in my body. My focus was the battle I was in and what I needed to do to find victory
I survived and began to recover but in that place of survival I still feared my enemy and lived in its shadow. I had to acknowledge there were injuries from the fight, both physical and emotional, and invest time and care into their healing.
Now I find myself in a place of overcoming. I have processed that fear, I can look my past events in the eye and not be scared of their hold over me. I can sit in this blue chair calmly and at peace and think ahead to how I can help others on their journeys.
As I sat here yesterday I was reminded too of the guides and companions I have had on my journey and I am profoundly grateful for them.
Fight. Survive. Overcome.
Where are you in your journey today?
The amaryllis bulb that I planted with faith and hope in memory of my grandparents has blossomed in all it's glory.
It brings me great joy every time I pass it and a deep sense of gratitude for those who have gone before.
Every year I grow an amaryllis flower in memory of my grandparents.
Every year I look at the bulb before I plant it and wonder at the fact that even though it looks dead and lifeless it is only dormant and there is a whole plant and bloom in there waiting to emerge.
In faith, I bury it in the soil, water it, position it in good light and wait for the growth and the glorious flowers.
Every year they appear.